A month of mess

Today is Sam’s last day of work. In just a few hours he’ll be off and home. Home till he leaves for the Army. Home…

for a MONTH.

Now, this is going to sound awful. Because you’d think with him being gone for 4 months, I’d be jumping up and down at the thought of him being home that long. Lots of time to spend together, to visit people, to take trips, to cuddle and talk…

But all I can think of.




The mess that he will not clean up (and it’s amazing just how much nagging he will endure), the mess that every.single.day I will have to pick up over and over to ensure that I do not lose my mind along with the shoes he can’t ever seem to find. (under the mess honey) The mess that even after just two days of him being home makes me go slightly insane because I don’t get why “clean” means “dishes in the sink, flour on the counter, food on the stove, socks on the ground, towels on the floor, laundry half done, bed unmade, 15 pairs of shoes in the hallway, coat on the chair, shaving cream in the sink – Hey it’s all clean!” ::HEADEXPLOSION::

A month of mess. I love him, I adore him, but oh. Oh my tongue will be bitten clean off with me trying to not say anything before he leaves. I begin each day with a prayer from here on out, “Lord, don’t let me see the mess.”

And then? I will have a clean house for 4 months and wish he was here to mess it up.


Omg. I’m a freak.


  1. Sol says

    If you get an urge to clean up a mess you can always come here 😀

    I hope this month goes by quickly for you.

  2. says

    sending you love. I would go nutty with both situations – honestly. I can not deal with my husband being home for more then 3 days in a row. But i would also so not like him being gone for too long. I will be thinking of you lots as your new changes take place ♥

  3. Mandy says

    LOL, you are too funny. I just pick up after Heith, like I pick up after Chase, as I go. It can be exhausting.

  4. TheNextMartha says

    Yes. I can be very messy but when I’m clean? Why is it no one gets what that means? It means PUT YOUR STUFF AWAY. Can not for the life of me understand how to make that point to them.

  5. Jen says

    I couldn’t agree more, which is why this is so funny. The entire time Justin’s gone, I’m constantly wishing I had someone else here to help clean, cook, deal with the kids, run errands….And then he gets here and the entire time I’m constantly reminding him to pick up after himself and turn lights off. I usually start off by complimenting him about something, and then go in with the nagging. Example: Awww, thank you so much for doing the dishes honey. Next time you really should rinse the dishes a little better before you put them in the dishwasher, and try to fill it up a little bit more because 5 dishes don’t have to be washed by themselves.

  6. says

    You know what you need to do. You are gonna miss that mess while he is gone, so you should both make a mess and play in it. Maybe take pictures of the mess and look back on it when he is gone.

    Enjoy the mess

  7. says

    :) I think all wives get this, military or not. One of my best friends husbands has been deployed numerous times and she says it sucks when he leaves, the it’s awesome when he get’s home until he starts moving stuff. B/c he thinks it belongs elsewhere. B/c he’s trying to be helpful.

  8. says

    My husband is a big mess maker too… He will often take a day off to “help” me and I spend the next several days catching up. Try to enjoy the man and leave the mess… You deserve the quality time and can clean later :)

  9. says

    Oh, Lord. I’d go nuts if my husband was going to be home with me for a month. Not because he’s messy – he’s actually the neat freak. But we would just get on each other’s nerves so bad. Maybe you can send him on a daily grocery store run or something. :)