What are you hoping for?

This is the question I usually hear right after, “Was it a surprise?” And so I thought I’d write you up a bit about how I feel/want in regards to the sex of the twins.

I remember before I was pregnant being highly annoyed with the generic answer of, “Oh goodness, we’re just hoping for a healthy baby!” And I’d think, “Really? Nothing inside of you leans one way or the other? Doesn’t everyone hope for a healthy baby but maybe with a certain set of parts?”

Then I got pregnant with Bella. And I understood. While I actually thought she was a boy, I didn’t really have a preference. I just thought she was, but finding out she was a girl was amazing.

This time around, I do have a bit of a preference, but it tends to vary from day to day. Take Saturday. I’m helping my friend pack and she starts giving me all these tiny newborn clothes her son barely wore. Bears, whales, little camo pants, tiny trucks.

My heart exploded with the insane cuteness.

So one or two boys? Oh, I’d love it. Two boys that get to be connected like that forever? My grandpa was a twin – his bond with his brother was very special. Part of me would be a tad bit sad if I didn’t get one boy out of this deal – because no matter what, I’m not doing this again.

But then I go through Bella’s old clothes we saved. And I long for one more little girl. So those little clothes get another round of use, so I have two or three little girls to do tea parties with. To roughhouse with Daddy. Two little girls who grow up together? I think Sam would die of the cute.

Two of each would be lovely. One of each? I’d love as well.

I know. I’m one of those annoying answer people.

I’m simply eager to find out. I know most people with twins find out early but I don’t know how early or if it’s just because we have so many more ultrasounds. And now knowing we are having two and the higher risks, my focus really is on knowing they are both ok.

Did you have a preference when you were pregnant? Or do you? Or not care either way?

Anyone want to take a guess on what we’ll have? :)

Comments

  1. I definitely had a preference – I wanted a girl.

    When I found out Harrison was a boy, I was thrilled that he was healthy & looked forward to little seer-sucker overalls, but I was bummed. I don’t think it makes me a bad momma to say that because once he arrived, I couldn’t imagine anything else. I was destined to be a boy momma & if I only had boys for the rest of my life, I would die a happy woman.

    When I look to having another baby, I’m torn. I want another boy SO BADLY because Harry would have a playmate & I adore boys & brothers & being the only gal in the house is a wonderful feeling. But then I think about my friendship with my own momma & I know that if I never have a girl, I’ll never have a chance at that woman-friendship in my own child.

    So. Yeah. Ramble, ramble, blah blah.

    The good news about being torn? You’ll be THRILLED on that big ultrasound day!

  2. I didnt, I really just wanted a baby. Lol I will say after having two boys I was a little shocked we were having a girl. After that wore off, I was so excited, it surprised even me how excited I was for a girl.

    my guess is two boys. (im not right very often though. Lol)

  3. Diana santizo says:

    After having a boy as my first, I’m hoping for my little girl, I wanna dress her up and play dolls and have tea parties and see her with his daddy ( bc Matteo is very attach to me :) ) I just wanna se some pink in t house, nothin wrong with that, right? And if is another boy, I’m sure I’ll more than happy to see them play together and be best friends forever!!!! So I hope we can find out soon!!!!

  4. It’s not completely reliable, but one way that you can take an educated guess as to what you will have is to look at your husband’s family. Are there a lot of one gender or the other from his male siblings or cousins? In my husband’s family, there are a lot of boys, so it was not a shocker that our first child was a boy. Our second was a girl (a rarity among the grandchildren) and our guess for this one is a boy, but we won’t be finding out for another month! Doesn’t matter either way to us, just a healthy child (after losing our daughter).

    There is no harm in wanting to know the gender of BO and GO! You will love them either way (and you can prepare yourself mentally, especially if you have boys because they are a whole lot different then girls is my understanding.)
    Wishing nothing but the best for your clan and I pray for you and yours!

  5. With EJ we found out at our first ultrasound that he was in fact a boy. His boy parts were very visible. I honestly didn’t have a preference at that point mostly due to whole “holy shit I am pregnant”. So I was pretty excited about it. I am such a girly girl though so part of me long for pink right from the start. And then I got pregnant with Jack and boy was I sick. For weeks I yelled from the mountain tops that it better be a girl because this uterus was never baking another baby. Once it was confirmed that Jack was a boy. I cried, like boo hooed for an entire day. And then I announced that this uterus would bake babies until it baked a girl. Funny how things change.
    So here we are today I would never ever want it to be different. Jack is the second little boy that we never knew we needed. EJ and him already have such a bond and love this little family so much I can’t hardly stand it. But in my heart its incomplete. Hopefully round three brings pink. I pray everyday for it. I do, I will admit it. Not that I wouldn’t love another boy but man do I want a little girl.

  6. I wanted a boy without question! I can’t explain why but a girl kind of scares me. Deep down I think it has something to do with my relationship with my mother… Anyway, we will probably start trying for our second later this year and all I keep thinking is, “please let it be another boy!” Of course we want healthy regardless, but another boy would make me very happy. I have friends and family members with girls that I have fun buying clothes for and spending time with and whom I love very dearly.

    I can’t wait to find out what you are having! How exciting! Wouldn’t it be serendipitous if you have one boy and one girl since their nicknames are BO and GO?!?!

  7. When I was pregnant with my son I really didn’t care What I was having- I have two older brothers (and a younger sister and brother) and really liked the idea of having a boy first to be a sister’s protecter, but I didn’t get to think about it for too long because I didn’t find out I was pregnant till 7-8 weeks and then it was Christmas and at 12-13 weeks I found out he was a boy! So not a whole lot of time to wonder! This time around I thought I would for SURE want ‘it’ to be a girl since I already had a boy, but as soon as I found out I was pregnant part of me hoped for a boy so Jasper could have a playmate. We found out early again, at 15 weeks that we are having a GIRL and the second I found out I was crying happy tears.

  8. I totally thought I was having a boy, and I was fine with it, but I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t crazy excited when we found out Piper was a girl. We both were! . None of the men on my husband’s side of the family had produced a girl in over 50 years (and that girl was the only one of her generation to have a daughter, all the other cousins are boys) so everyone was beyond thrilled and excited. I’d love another girl, but given the averages in the family, we’ve already gotten our generational allotment of girls ;)

  9. Kimberly says:

    I always wanted a boy. Both my husband and I were ecstatic when we clearly saw we were indeed having a boy. Boy names were harder for us than girls, we already had a girl name picked out. We will be trying for a second baby soon and we both badly want a girl. So we’ll see what happens. BTW…twins are a high possibility for me too! Can’t wait to hear what you’re having!

  10. Originally I wanted a boy, because ALL of Hank’s friends have girls, just to be different. But once I found out Erin was a girl, I thought about all of the neat things she and I could do together. I thought about telling her all about my mom. I thought about the relationship my dad and I have with each other. And then I decided it would be wonderful. Now I’m so glad I have a girl! A friend of mine who has two daughters (both of whom I taught in my first two years of teaching) told Hank “Having a child changes you, having a daughter transforms you.” I love watching the two of them together. When we start trying for #2, I’ll be torn between wanting a boy (for one of each) and a girl (for a sister for Erin, something I didn’t have). But I’ll be happy either way!

    I’m so excited for you, no matter what you have! <3

  11. Oh geeze, yea people get crazy about this. Especially the second time around and everyone assumes you MUST want the opposite of what your current child is… all I heard was “awww you must want a girl” and I was kind of up in the air about it too. But I guess secretly I really did want a girl, I need someone to wear my tutus & headbands & other baby gear!!! So I was a teensy bit disappointed when baby 2 was another boy. But it went away quickly. And I will tell you now, I am SOOOOOO glad we ended up with two boys instead of a boy & girl because there is just no comparison to kiddos 18 months apart that are same sex versus opposite. Sure they’d have been close and all that but being both boys is suuuuch a cool & unique bond and I’m so glad it ended up that way.

    Now that being said, #3 better be a GIRL haaaaaa! Or God help me….. a house full of boys aaagghhhh… and then you get the next question… so are you going to try AGAIN for a girl???? Eeek do you tempt fate & chance FOUR boys or just throw in the towel lol. So yea next one better be a girl ;)

  12. I wanted a boy first SO BAD that I was pretty… shocked when my first was a girl. It definitely took some time for me to wrap my head around. So when I was still pregnant with Laura, I was dead sure I would absolutely 100% want a boy with the next pregnancy.

    So I was pretty surprised to find myself NOT caring what this #2 was going to be. Another little girl would have been so much fun to see Laura grow up with! And a boy would mean one of each – and I love balance! #2 is a boy, and I couldn’t be happier. But this time, I truly cared less than the first time.

  13. Susan Smith says:

    I think it will be a boy and a girl.. :-)

  14. I wanted a boy, and I got a boy. :)

    Bobby and I were talking about our hopes for the next one, whenever we get pregnant again. He really wants a girl, but I really think I’ll be happy either way. I think having a girl would be really sweet, but I love the idea of brothers growing up together.

  15. We never found out – it was a surprise first time around! But I think I secretly hoped it was a little girl, and out she came!! This time, we are definitely going to find out, only because I really want to deal with piles and piles of clothes we have been given (all girly stuff). If we’re having a boy, I want to make sure we donate the explosion of pink!! (oh, and I actually have no preference for gender, but my hubby is definitely hoping for a boy. He grew up with 2 sisters…I think he wants some more male influence around the house!!)

  16. Ellen L says:

    I am one of those annoying people. I really just want a healthy baby (and preferably a painless delivery – is that possible too?). I have moments when I think a girl or boy would be more fun. Boys seem to stick close to their Mama’s in my partner’s family so there’s appeal there. We don’t have any brothers or male cousins in my family so sometimes I think a girl would be easier for me.

    What has been interesting to me is how unhappy it seems to make other people that we chose not to find out the baby’s sex. In fact, some family members have even accused us of knowing and not telling them. According to our families not knowing the sex makes it impossible to buy any clothes or decorate a nursery – what ever did they do before ultrasounds?

  17. When we announced we were expecting our fourth the first thing I heard was “I thought you were done.” LOL So did we but it’s a very welcomed surprise but then we were not doing too much to prevent either.

    Having three boys already I really wanted a girl – I cried when I found it was a third boy and now with our fourth I am a missed bag of emotions. Strangers get it but I’ve been getting lots of flak from family regarding my baby gender announcement where I poured my heart out and openly mourned the baby girl I’ll never have.

  18. We didn’t find out if R was a boy or a girl. I really didn’t have a preference, but I thought that he was going to be a girl…all my dreams involved baby girls, I intuitively referred to the baby as “she,” etc. So imagine my surprise when R was born and the doctor said “it’s a boy!” I was thrilled…but also wanted to ask “are you sure???”

    That being said, having a little boy is awesome. If we have #2, I think I’d lean towards wanting another boy, just because R is so much fun! But, I also would be thrilled with a girl…a chance for pink & frills & ponytails!!

  19. I really wanted a girl and even identified my belly as girl before the ultrasound, lol! It was a girl and I was thrilled but if it had been a boy I would have still been really happy! I’m thinking you’re going to have twin boys or one of each :).

  20. I thought Maggie was a boy too, because of all the old wives tales about wanting steak and salty things, because those were my biggest cravings. Honestly, I didn’t have a preference, but when we found out we were having a girl, I was elated. I would really love to have one of each, so I’m half way there!!! As for you, I think you’re going to have one of each. Just a hunch!

    • I kinda think one of each too! But then I think maybe two boys. For some reason I don’t really think two girls though. No idea why. It’ll be fun to see what happens.

  21. We have a little girl right now and I’m 10 weeks along with #2. I honestly don’t have a preference either way. I feel myself wishing for a girl for Jocelyn’s sake – because I think sisters have a very special bond… that I have never known because I don’t have one – but I see it with my friends who do. At the same time I kind of want a boy for my DH. So – either way – I will be a happy mama. Hopefully we can find out soon enough :)

    • I love how our pregnancies are so close! And it seems like it takes forever until we get to the point where they can see what we’re having huh? This was the slowest time for me with Bella.

  22. With our first child my husband really wanted a boy and I really wanted a girl . And I just knew that I was going to have a girl – sure enough we did! With our second my husband really wanted a girl and I wanted a boy (but kinda wanted a girl). But, again, I just knew I was having a boy. And, again, I was right! Both times we’ve been absolutely thrilled with the outcome – healthy, beautiful babies.

    With our next one, whenever we decide to have a next one, I think I’m going to be very torn. I’d say that I want twins – one of each – but my brother & sis-in-law have twins and I’m not sure that I want all that work!!! lol

  23. I was the same way. With my first pregnancy I just wanted a healthy baby, but I was leaning a little towards wanting a girl. I’m a very girly girl so the idea of dressing up my daughter in frilly dresses and having tea parties sounded perfect. Once we found out we were having a boy (and now that he’s here) I LOVE being the mom of a boy! All the cars, trains, and rough housing, I love it. When I got pregnant the second time I was thinking that I wanted a girl again so that we could have one of each and possibly be done making babies. We found out two months ago that we’re having another boy and I fell in love with the idea of having two boys- brothers that will be close in age and share the same toys. They can play on the same sports teams and build forts together. It’s funny how we think we know what we want but once we find out what God is going to bless us with, our hearts and minds change and His plan becomes our new perfect. At least that’s what happened in my case. :) Either way I know you’ll be a fantastic mom to all three of your kids! Congrats!

  24. One of each, that’s what you’re having. :) I ‘knew’ Violet was a girl, we found out with w/ Sarah and I didn’t have a clue with John – but I was terrified either way. What if we had 3 girls?? Or a boy?? I didn’t what to do with a boy, but I didn’t know what to do with 3 girls either.

  25. One of each, that’s what you’re having. :) I ‘knew’ Violet was a girl, we found out with w/ Sarah and I didn’t have a clue with John – but I was terrified either way. What if we had 3 girls?? Or a boy?? I didn’t know what to do with a boy, but I didn’t know what to do with 3 girls either.

    • See – I can’t even fathom 3 girls either. It doesn’t pop into my head much when I ponder what they are. I always think girl boy or boy boy. But then, I don’t know what to do with a boy either!

  26. I wanted to have a daughter. I really thought my son was a girl. Once he arrived, I was in love! Then when I was pg with my girl, I thought she was a boy. LOL! So this one, I think is a girl…so I’m prob having a boy, which is fine too!

    I like to think you have a boy and a girl in there, and I can’t wait to find out!

    • I love your reasoning with all of this! :) I kinda feel like we’re having a girl/boy or boy/boy combo too. I can’t see a girl/girl for some reason. I can’t wait to find out what you’re having!!

  27. I knew Abbey was a girl from the beginning. Maybe because I wanted one? I don’t know. But Ryan told me she was the girl the morning I peed on the stick, so with both of us being pretty sure it wasn’t a surprise when we found out at 20 weeks.

    I was conflicted with Dylan. I wanted a boy because one of each is fun. I wanted a girl because I always wanted a sister. We didn’t find out until he was born, and I can’t imagine anything but this now.

    I’ll say one of each for you!

  28. I remember when we were TTC #1, we both wanted a boy so badly. Mainly because a close friend had a little boy and i just enjoyed him SO much! Also, we really wanted a “junior.” We decided not to find out the sex and everyone around us was appauled! How could you NOT FIND OUT?! But we stuck to it, and we didn’t find out, and that night that i gave birth to my tiny little baby boy was the happiest, most suspenseful and exciting night of my life! And the best surprise you can possibly get in life!

    Now that i’m pregnant with #2, i’m not really sure if i have a preference. I think i want another boy just because of the ease of it. I have boy clothes. I have boy toys. I know how to take care of a boy. And we only have a 2 bedroom house — so 2 boys in 1 room is a lot easier than a boy and girl in one room! But honestly? I’d be happy with either. And just like we did the first time… we’re not finding out the sex again! ;)

  29. With mine, I felt like I had a combo of boys & girls & I ended up being right. I think the reason moms of multiples find out earlier is all of our ultrasounds. My doctor called baby A as a boy at 15 weeks but both the girls were hiding their parts. I felt like baby B was a girl from the beginning. Baby C had always kept us guessing.

    I too always thought the “I just hoping for healthy babies” line was cheesy… until we went & one wasn’t healthy. Now that’s what I continue to hope & pray for for all my pregnant friends. But as you know, I’m beyond thrilled that we’re having a boy & a girl.

    I think one of each for you ~ it’d work perfect for me to hand down clothes to your two!!

  30. I love the name of your blog. I am not alone in my hormone imbalance!!!

    I had dreams about boys and we even picked out boy names. When we went for our ultrasound and found out it was a boy, I remember saying, “Are you sure…are you really sure”. I love my daughter and is a true blessing from God. She radiates God’s love to others and espeically God’s animals. We want to have more kids but I have been hesitant and anxious. I know love cannot be the same for all children; we just love them with no strings attracted. I have loved the 1:1 time we have had with Ava. So pray that March is the month for us.

    If you meet my daughter and ask us how many kids; she will say, “I have a baby brother or sister in heaven”. I was not able to heal until seeing it from my daughter’s view.

  31. With my first, I wanted a boy. I wanted the first kiddo to be the big brother and take care of all the younger siblings. I was positive I was having a boy. Then I found out Vicki was a girl and I was thrilled beyond belief to have a daughter.

    With this baby, I was convinced it was a girl and was wrong again. I wanted a girl so Vicki could have a little sister and a boy because I want a variety pack when all is said and done. I’m SO EXCITED to have a little boy but just a teeny bit nervous since I don’t know how to be a boy mom.

    I think if it was my last kid and I had only one gender, I would want the opposite so we would have at least one of each. I am so lucky that with our first two we’ll already have the variety. Although now I would love to have 2 of each so everyone has a brother and everyone has a sister. But I will be truly happy no matter what parts my kids have.

  32. With Ruby I knew almost immediately she was a girl. I just could sense it. With this one, so far I’ve got no sense of it… Ruby keeps saying “girl” and that would be amazing. (Especially to be able to use all those adorable dresses again) But then I think of being able to raise a boy to be a kind, conscious, compassionate man, like the one I married, and I pray it’s a boy. So torn! Either way, I pray every day for a healthy baby… that’s the top priority!

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